A Heartfelt Tribute to a Beloved Friend: In Memory of Michael Wiedeman

In the world of caregiving, certain individuals leave an indelible mark on support staff as well as their fellow residents. One special person was lovingly referred to as the “grumpy old man” by Thersea Pruse, Dungarvin Minnesota Operational Program Director. While Theresea only worked with Michael for a year, they grew very close during this time. Michael was born on August 4th, 1952, in Minneapolis to Dale and Luella Wideman. He never married, but Michael built his own family with and under the care of his Dungarvin Minnesota family for the last 27 years of his life. 

“He enjoyed teasing others and was such a jokester,” shared Thersea with a smile. “He kept us on our toes.” The Dungarvin team at the Girard North House where Michael lived exhibited extraordinary compassion during the final months of his life, creating a supportive and loving environment for everyone at this difficult time. “This home and this particular staff are very tight-knit and person-centered,” observed Nicole Worman, Operational Director. “Nobody is there for just a paycheck. They are there because they care about the individuals.” 

Despite his ‘hardheaded’ nature, characterized by a preference for tidiness that included a habit of hiding things he didn’t like, Michael was a beloved resident by both staff and residents alike. Theresea fondly recalls how much he liked ‘ragging’ on the others, often asking, “Are you going to behave?” His sense of humor and unique idea of cleanliness kept everyone eager to see what Michael was going to get into each day.  

“When (the staff) found out Michael was in home hospice, they all went out of their way to ensure he had the food he loved and the care he needed,” said Thersea. She believes that the staff’s dedication and deep understanding of him significantly extended his life, as they all witnessed subtle changes in his behavior and health that might have otherwise gone unnoticed. After his death, Dungarvin staff even planned a memorial for Michael at his home. 

“Some staff have known him for over 15 years,” shared Nicole. “When he was placed in hospice at the end of March, staff did everything they could to make his final days comfortable.” 

Nicole described Michael’s funeral service as a true memorial, a rare and touching event that felt like being in church. Residential Program Coordinator Odelta Cole read scriptures and delivered a sermon, highlighting the personal nature of everyone’s relationship with Michael. In the direct support field of work, staff are advised not to take things personally, but the bonds formed with some individuals are inevitably meaningful. 

Despite the challenges, the Girard North House truly lives out our mission of respecting and responding to the choices of those in need of supports. 

Michael leaves behind his roommates Jethro, Ryan, and Hayley; his friends Keith, Traves, John and Collin; as well as his Dungarvin staff and supervisors.